Reddit users were divided about whether a woman was right to share an honest opinion of her friend’s unusual wedding dress.
In a June 3 post on Reddit’s “Am I the A–hole” (AITA) subreddit — titled “AITA for telling my friend that I didn’t like her wedding dress?” — redditor zzz_Macaroon_7983 asked people to weigh in about how she gave her honest opinion.
The user explained that three months ago, she attended her friend’s wedding, “a destination wedding at a beach venue.”
The Reddit writer explained that she kept her opinion to herself and did not share her thoughts on the dress with anyone else.
“It isn’t my place to tell her what she shouldn’t have worn,” she said.
“Before we started watching, she talked about how her parents told her that her wedding dress didn’t look good and that she should’ve worn a white simple dress (they are a very traditional type),” wrote zzz_Macaroon_7983.
“But then she asked me, ‘I didn’t ask you if I looked confident or unique, I asked you what you thought about the dress,'” she wrote.
“I didn’t want to lie to her,” said the woman on Reddit, “since we’ve always had a very blunt relationship. She’s always told me the blunt truth, but keeping in mind that it was obviously a really big day for her, I tried to be kind and sensitive about my honest opinion,” she added.
The friend “was quiet for a second and then she got up and left.”
Added the woman on Reddit, “I tried messaging her, but I got no response.”
“I’m having trouble even contemplating whether I was wrong, so what do you think?”
“One of her best friends sent me a long message about how while he agrees with me, I didn’t have to tell her that because it isn’t our place and that I came across as jealous and pathetic,” she said.
“I don’t know what to do or say, and I’m having trouble even contemplating whether I was wrong, so what do you think — AITA?” she asked on the social media platform.
The top responses on the site contained a mix of opinions, especially after zzz_Macaroon_7983 added that she initially tried to skirt the question when her asked her what she thought.
“She’s not going to wear it again, so it’s not as if you did her a service to stop her embarrassing herself in the future. You have [spoiled] the memory of how amazing she felt, though. Well done,” said Reddit user WinOk2110, who added “YTA.”
A handful of users rated the story as “NAH.”
“Before the wedding, your honesty would have been constructive criticism, but after the fact, it just becomes an insult,” said a person with the username “throwtruerateme.”
“If she felt amazing and confident in it, then that was the perfect dress for her.”
“You could have just as easily and truthfully said, ‘You created a stunning moment and were positively glowing in that dress!’ NAH,” the user added.
A woman on Reddit was brutally honest with her friend, a new bride (not pictured) — and the blunt opinions she delivered did not go over well. Plenty of people weighed in with assessments. (iStock)
While some posts in the subreddit are tagged with “Not the A–hole” or “A–hole” by Reddit when a clear decision has been determined by users — this one was not.
Still, zzz_Macaroon_7983 concluded that she was the one in the wrong.
The friendship might have been saved, too: The woman on Reddit wrote that she would be meeting up with her friend and would apologize for what she said.
“If she felt amazing and confident in it, then that was the perfect dress for her,” she said.